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The Perfect Order In Marriage

There is a perfect order in all things, especially when it comes to marriage. Because marriage is so important, we are shown how to make it work. And not only this, but to have lasting love in the relationship between the husband, wife and children. Now, in order to achieve this, there must be a way to live and grow as a family. This begins when our sights are on God and He then can bring us into His perfect order of marriage. For this reason, Paul taught us, 3“but I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.” And as God said to Moses, 1“Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.” So through scripture we can understand that as Jesus takes counsel from His Father, I take counsel from Jesus, as does the wife takes counsel from me, as does the children take counsel with their parents. When the husband honors Jesus and does what He says, then there is much love for those around Him. This helps His wife respect Him in ways she couldn’t before. It is amazing what happens when the husband decides to confide in the Lord. The same thing also happens with their children. As their kids are raised up in the ways of the Lord and shown what love is really like, their desire to do what they are directed and honor them will come naturally. We can’t expect our kids to confide in us, if we are not a good example to them.

There is a reason why men and women get married and start a family on their own. It is not just because they love each other, but because this is how it was meant to be from the beginning of time. As Paul taught, 3“nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.” You see, the woman is what completes the man. As 3“neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.” He really does need her. This is why men and women are drawn to each other in holy matrimony. It is because God created us this way. And this love for each other is the beginning of each of us learning our own role from God and then doing it. As we’ve learned, there is a perfect order in marriage when it comes to the husband, wife and children. However, this does not mean that the wife and children are excluded from also confiding in Jesus. 2The Lord calls everyone unto Him and wants us all to make Him Lord of our lives. You see, this perfect order is even more harmonious when each person has their own conviction of Jesus and His plan for our lives. And most importantly, this perfect order can only be known, but not truly kept if Jesus is not the Lord of the household. We can learn all we want to about our role in the marriage and the family, but this role will never become a reality if there is not first trust in the Lord Jesus and His desires for our lives. Know that a marriage that is built in the Lord is where His love dwells.

Let us pray:
Oh Lord, I pray that we will learn how to honor and respect You as Lord of our lives. May we ever remember Your great Name as many lives challenges come our way. I know that You are our deliver and can lead us out of harm’s way and into Your love, if we but trust in You. In the good times and the bad, You want to be there for us, if we but seek Your hand in prayer. For this reason, my trust is in You, God. I pray that as I am a husband to my wife, that I may be an example of faith. That my love for You, dear Lord, will overflow in her life and my children’s lives. In this way, will they see my faith in You and also desire to believe themselves. And as I am ready and willing to do Your will in my life, may my wife confide in me and also follow in my footsteps. With You at the head of our marriage, I know that there can only be love and joy. Even my children will see this among us and have more honor and respect towards us. Surely Your ways are perfect, along with Your perfect plan for marriage. I just pray that I may ever continue to seek Your hand and make You the king of my life, as You have done this with Your Father. Then, will my wife confide in me the same way, and my children in us. Your ways are holy and lead us in the ways of righteousness. Help us have remain in Your joy, love and peace in our marriage, every day of our lives. Keep us in Your arms, dear Jesus. I love You. Amen.

Let us read the Bible:
Note: Any Numbered References, found above, are listed below.

1Exodus 20:1-17 (KJV)
1 And God spake all these words, saying,
2 I am the Lord thy God, which have brought thee out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage.
3 Thou shalt have no other gods before me.
4 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.
5 Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I the Lord thy God am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that hate me;
6 And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love me, and keep my commandments.
7 Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain; for the Lord will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
8 Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.
9 Six days shalt thou labour, and do all thy work:
10 But the seventh day is the sabbath of the Lord thy God: in it thou shalt not do any work, thou, nor thy son, nor thy daughter, thy manservant, nor thy maidservant, nor thy cattle, nor thy stranger that is within thy gates:
11 For in six days the Lord made heaven and earth, the sea, and all that in them is, and rested the seventh day: wherefore the Lord blessed the sabbath day, and hallowed it.
12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
13 Thou shalt not kill.
14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.
15 Thou shalt not steal.
16 Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour.
17 Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour’s.

2Matthew 11:28-30 (KJV)
28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

31 Corinthians 11:1-15 (KJV)
1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you.
3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head.
5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.
6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.
7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.
8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
10 For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.
11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.
12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.
13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?
14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

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