There was a time, not to long ago, when I was thinking about divorce. I had even told my wife I thought there wasn’t anything left fighting for. Though I loved the Lord it was hard for me to love my spouse the same way. My time with God was different for their was peace. Around my wife, all I ever felt was heartache. All we ever did was argue. Conversations always led to arguments. Negative things were brought up so often that I found myself often feeling unloved. Though I tried to love my wife in the right way, I wasn’t able to. I just wanted to feel loved by her again. For this I prayed about our marriage and then found myself reading in Matthew 19. That day I had been doing a lot of soul searching and when I opened up to these verses my eyes were opened. When questions were raised about divorce it was like I was the one asking the Lord. He was speaking with me directly. My heart was pierced by the answers He gave.
When I read the verses about leaving my wife for any reason, I could hear Jesus say, “what God has joined together, let not man separate.” When I committed to be married it was for life, He was telling me. He helped me find my precious wife for He knew we were meant to be. He joined us for a reason. He wanted us to be happy and be one like He is with His Father. I knew the Lord could bring love into my marriage if I trusted in Him fully. When I read the part about the certificate of divorce I remembered myself looking at sites where you could get one. I always had a bad feeling in my heart when I did this. It was like my heart was hardened to what God wanted for this marriage. I could hear Him say, “whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” This spoke right to me. My thoughts of divorce should never occur lest adultery is involved.
That night I told my wife how these verses affected me. I told her I was sorry for bringing up divorce. I wanted to start over and be more kind and loving towards her. I knew it would be difficult for her to understand this change in my heart but I asked for her forgiveness. I told her how much she means to me. How much I appreciate the wonderful mother she is. Then she told me how she had been praying for me to understand the consequences of a divorce. She thanked God for answering her prayers. Oh Lord, I am grateful to know your will for my marriage. I know that if I trust in You we can grow stronger in love. Help me to respect my wife for who she is. Help me to know how to express my love for her in ways that will strengthen this marriage. Help me to always remember to go out of my way to make her happy. I know that your love can restore any marriage. We can be healed by your touch. We can make it through hard times if we but give our hearts to you. I love You and will do everything I can to be a better husband for my sweet wife.
Matthew 19:1-9 (NKJV)
1 Now it came to pass, when Jesus had finished these sayings, that He departed from Galilee and came to the region of Judea beyond the Jordan.
2 And great multitudes followed Him, and He healed them there.
3 The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?”
4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’
5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
7 They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?”
8 He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”