Every marriage starts off with so much enthusiasm and love for one another. At the day of the wedding, men and women do their vows. Some may say, “I promise to be faithful and never leave your side.”, “You are my true love, I am so happy to have found you and will cling to this love forever” or “My joy is fulfilled. For you I will do all things, even until the end.” There may have even been romance in the way we spoke to one another that day. Things like, “Your love is like the beauty of the spring. It explodes with so much life and it is contagious,” or “There may have been two shores apart from our love for way too long, but we have finally come together and all my dreams have come true.” The things we said on that day may not be remembered word for word but part of the feelings you had will never be forgotten. Surely, love was in the air and nothing our future spouse could do would hold back our love for them. This is what I want you to think about today. Those days were great but how is your life now? Is it the same? Have you lived up to these vows? Are you doing the things you promised for your spouse? If not, you are alone. Without God taking hold of the marriage, things do fall apart fast. Only He can continue to build us up and bring us closer together each day.
So my question now is, if you feel like the love in your marriage is over or dormant right now, wouldn’t it be great if those trying times were over? And yes, I will not bring up the “D” word, for it is not God’s will that anyone separate. Jesus said, 2“what therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” And believe it or not, God has joined you and your spouse in marriage. He had great plans for your life and still does. Where did the enthusiasm for one another come from, in the beginning? It was God. He led you to your one true love. And now that you understand that things are broken, He has a plan to mend your relationship. All things that are broken will be fixed in His due time. There may not be sparks now but with God, there will be fireworks. And before you know it, romance will fill the marriage once again. Let me give you a glimpse of what it may like from the life of Solomon. He said, speaking of his wife, 1“I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me. Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages.” This kind of talk is not foreign but was once a part of your life also. And with God’s hand in your life, what you start saying and doing will change everything. Trust in Him and your marriage will be transformed into a beautifully loving marriage.
Let us pray:
Oh Lord God, many times we say things and never follow through it. This is especially difficult when we know that we promised to be there for our spouse, through thick and thin, and have strayed from doing so. I know that many people know this to be true. They made a vow at marriage to love their spouse and do anything for them till the end, and now they find themselves doing things only for themselves and some may have been unfaithful. I know that I am a culprit of this as well. I know that I have not treated my spouse the best over these years and I am sorry Lord. Even my words now don’t do anything unless I show actions. And one thing I know Lord is that once the flame goes out, it is hard to light it again. I surely need Your help on this matter, as do many other people in marriages. We realize that we have not been the most faithful husband or wife, that we promised to be, but trust in You now and pray that our marriages will be healed. Yes Lord, come and put Your healing hand on my marriage and others that are broken. May we remember our vows and start to be true to them all over again. You have the power to do this in our lives. I know that You can do all things. I love You Lord. Amen.
Let us read the Bible:
Note: Any Numbered References, found above, are listed below.
1Song Of Solomon 7 (KJV)
1 How beautiful are thy feet with shoes, O prince’s daughter! the joints of thy thighs are like jewels, the work of the hands of a cunning workman.
2 Thy navel is like a round goblet, which wanteth not liquor: thy belly is like an heap of wheat set about with lilies.
3 Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins.
4 Thy neck is as a tower of ivory; thine eyes like the fishpools in Heshbon, by the gate of Bathrabbim: thy nose is as the tower of Lebanon which looketh toward Damascus.
5 Thine head upon thee is like Carmel, and the hair of thine head like purple; the king is held in the galleries.
6 How fair and how pleasant art thou, O love, for delights!
7 This thy stature is like to a palm tree, and thy breasts to clusters of grapes.
8 I said, I will go up to the palm tree, I will take hold of the boughs thereof: now also thy breasts shall be as clusters of the vine, and the smell of thy nose like apples;
9 And the roof of thy mouth like the best wine for my beloved, that goeth down sweetly, causing the lips of those that are asleep to speak.
10 I am my beloved’s, and his desire is toward me.
11 Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages.
12 Let us get up early to the vineyards; let us see if the vine flourish, whether the tender grape appear, and the pomegranates bud forth: there will I give thee my loves.
13 The mandrakes give a smell, and at our gates are all manner of pleasant fruits, new and old, which I have laid up for thee, O my beloved.
2Mark 10:1-12 (KJV)
1 And he arose from thence, and cometh into the coasts of Judaea by the farther side of Jordan: and the people resort unto him again; and, as he was wont, he taught them again.
2 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.
3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?
4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.
5 And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
6 But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
9 What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.